Healed Family Love

Family dynamics, observed over thousands of years, is still an area that every individual, through every generation, needs to understand. Think about it for a moment; we are often shown what trauma in a family looks like - probably because the need to resolve it is so high. As a result, there is a lack of familiarity with what healed and healthy family dynamics and what healed love looks like within the heart of our homes. 

So, as we embrace the month of love, let's touch on this complex subject momentarily.

Picture this: healed love in our families is like a cosy blanket of vulnerability where we can bear our souls without fear of judgment. Brené Brown's work highlights that genuine connection is found in our moments of vulnerability with our families; it's about creating a haven for each other's fears, dreams, and everything in between.

Gabor Maté throws in another gem – understanding and addressing the emotional stuff we might carry from our past. Healed love involves:

Navigating through those sometimes murky waters.

Acknowledging each other's wounds.

Working together towards a deeper understanding and support.


Now, let's talk communication, ladies. It's the heartbeat of healed love in our families. It's about listening with intent, practising empathy, and finding the courage to express our needs and boundaries. Embracing imperfections and showing empathy, just like Brené teaches, forms the glue that keeps us together.

But it's not just about serious talks. Healed love includes:

Those shared belly laughs.

Midnight conversations.

Those crazy family traditions (even the ones we question occasionally).

The shared experiences become the backbone of our connection, reminding us that we're in this together.

A healed family love is a journey filled with vulnerability, understanding, and, yes, even more imperfectly perfect moments. So, stop thinking this sounds like a cheesy holiday movie. We've been led to believe that this is fantasy only because what's normal seems unfamiliar. Because in this sacred space, we're each other's anchors, creating a haven of resilience and connection through all of life's twists and turns.

Here's to the beautiful chaos of family love, sisters

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